The Sober Mindset: 10 Thought Habits That Support Recovery

Recovery is not just about what you stop putting in your body. It is about what you start putting in your mind.

Most people think sobriety is a physical battle. They picture the shaking hands of withdrawal, the clenched jaw of a craving, the white-knuckle grip on the edge of a table as the urge passes through your body like a wave. And yes, the physical part is real. It is brutal and raw and it demands everything you have.

But the real battle — the one that determines whether you stay sober for a month or a lifetime — happens between your ears. It happens in the quiet, invisible space of your own thoughts. In the narratives you tell yourself. In the beliefs you carry about who you are, what you deserve, and whether this whole sobriety thing is even possible for someone like you.

Your thoughts are either your greatest ally or your most dangerous enemy in recovery. Every single day, your mind is producing thousands of thoughts — interpretations, judgments, memories, predictions, fears, desires. And those thoughts shape everything. They shape how you feel. They shape what you do. They shape whether you pick up the phone and call your sponsor or pick up a bottle and throw away everything you have built.

Here is the thing about thoughts that most people do not realize until recovery forces them to confront it: you do not have to believe everything you think. A thought is not a fact. A craving is not a command. A fear is not a prediction. And the voice in your head that says you cannot do this, that you are not strong enough, that you are one bad day away from relapse — that voice is not telling you the truth. It is telling you a story. And you have the power to rewrite it.

This article is about 10 thought habits — specific, practical, learnable patterns of thinking — that support long-term recovery. These are not abstract psychological theories. These are the mental frameworks that real people in recovery use every single day to stay sober, stay grounded, and stay moving forward. They are the thoughts behind the sobriety. The invisible architecture of a sober life.

If you can change how you think, you can change everything. Let’s start.

1. “I Can Handle This” Instead of “I Cannot Take This”

The single most destructive thought pattern in recovery is the belief that you cannot handle what is happening to you. That the pain is too much. That the craving is too strong. That the situation is too hard. That you are too weak, too broken, too far gone to survive this moment without a drink.

That belief is a lie. And it is the lie that precedes almost every relapse.

The truth is, you have already survived every single difficult moment in your life up to this point. One hundred percent of your worst days have ended. One hundred percent of your most unbearable cravings have passed. You have a perfect track record of getting through things you thought would destroy you. The evidence is overwhelming: you can handle more than you think.

The thought habit is this: every time your brain says “I cannot take this,” you correct it. Deliberately. Firmly. “I can handle this. It is hard, but I can handle hard things. I have done it before and I will do it again.” Say it out loud if you need to. Write it on a sticky note and put it on your mirror. Repeat it until it drowns out the other voice. Because the thought you feed is the one that grows.

Real-life example: When Dominic lost his job six months into sobriety, his first thought was: “I cannot do this sober. This is too much.” He sat in his car in the parking lot after being let go and felt the craving explode through his body like an electrical current. But something his sponsor had taught him kicked in — a phrase he had been practicing for months. “I can handle this. It is terrible. But I can handle terrible.” He said it out loud, alone in his car, over and over. He called his sponsor. He went to a meeting that night. He did not drink. “That moment in the parking lot was the hardest test of my sobriety,” Dominic says. “And the thought that saved me was not complicated. It was just five words: I can handle this. Those five words have gotten me through job loss, a breakup, a health scare, and a dozen other things my brain tried to tell me were impossible to survive sober. They were not impossible. They were hard. And I handled them.”

2. Playing the Tape Forward

This is one of the most powerful thought habits in all of recovery, and it is devastatingly simple. When a craving hits — when the romanticized memory of drinking starts playing in your head, when the voice whispers “just one drink, just tonight, nobody would know” — you do not stop the tape at the first drink. You play it forward. All the way to the end.

Your addiction wants you to freeze the movie at the highlight reel: the first cold sip on a hot day, the warmth spreading through your chest, the temporary relief from whatever you are feeling. It wants you to believe the movie ends there. But it does not. It never does.

Play the tape forward. One drink becomes three becomes seven. The warm feeling becomes sloppy becomes blackout. The relief becomes regret becomes shame. The morning after. The headache. The nausea. The phone you are afraid to check. The promises you broke again. The look on someone’s face. The spiral. The despair.

When you play the tape all the way to the end, the craving loses its power. Because the full movie is never worth watching. Not once. Not ever.

Real-life example: Lorraine was at a friend’s birthday dinner, fourteen months sober, when the waiter placed a glass of red wine in front of her by mistake. For three seconds, she stared at it. The color. The smell. The memory of how it tasted — warm and smooth and familiar. Her brain lit up like a switchboard. “Just one sip. You have earned it.” But Lorraine had been practicing playing the tape forward for over a year. She did it instantly, almost automatically. She saw the one sip become a full glass. The full glass become a bottle. The bottle become a late-night trip to the liquor store. The morning after. The shame. The reset to day one. The disappointment on her daughter’s face. The fourteen months of progress burned to the ground. All of that played through her mind in about four seconds. She pushed the glass away and asked the waiter for a sparkling water. “Playing the tape forward saved me that night,” Lorraine says. “The craving wanted me to see the highlight. My brain showed me the whole movie. And the ending was never, ever worth it.”

3. “Progress, Not Perfection”

Perfectionism and addiction are closely linked in ways that most people do not realize until they are deep into recovery. Many people who struggle with alcohol are also people who hold themselves to impossibly high standards. They expect flawless performance from themselves in every area — as a parent, as an employee, as a partner, as a friend, as a person in recovery. And when they inevitably fall short — because perfection is not possible for any human being — the gap between expectation and reality becomes an excuse to drink.

The sober mindset replaces perfection with progress. It says: I do not have to be perfect today. I just have to be better than yesterday. I do not have to have it all figured out. I just have to keep moving forward. I do not have to never struggle. I just have to struggle without giving up.

This thought habit is especially important on the days when recovery feels messy. When you snap at someone you love. When you miss a meeting. When a craving catches you off guard and you white-knuckle through it with zero grace. Those days are not failures. Those days are proof that you are imperfect and still showing up. And showing up imperfectly is infinitely better than not showing up at all.

Real-life example: Simone was a relentless perfectionist who carried the same impossible standards into her recovery. If she missed a morning meditation, she considered the entire day ruined. If she had a bad therapy session, she spiraled into self-criticism. If she felt a craving, she told herself she was not working the program hard enough. Her sponsor finally sat her down and said, “Simone, your perfectionism is going to kill you faster than the alcohol. You need to learn that good enough is good enough.” It took months of practice, but Simone learned to catch herself when the perfectionist voice kicked in. Instead of “I should have handled that better,” she started saying, “I handled that imperfectly, and I am still sober, and that is a win.” Instead of “I missed my meditation, today is ruined,” she started saying, “I will meditate this afternoon instead.” “Progress, not perfection changed my entire relationship with recovery,” Simone says. “I stopped treating sobriety like a test I could fail and started treating it like a practice I was getting better at. That shift saved me.”

4. Separating Facts From Stories

Your brain is a meaning-making machine. It does not just observe events — it immediately wraps them in stories, interpretations, and narratives. Someone does not text you back, and your brain says: “They are ignoring me because they do not care about me.” You make a mistake at work, and your brain says: “I am going to get fired and lose everything.” You have a craving, and your brain says: “This means I am not really committed to recovery.”

None of those are facts. They are stories. Interpretations your brain created based on past patterns, fears, and insecurities. And in recovery, the ability to separate what actually happened from what your brain says it means is one of the most critical thought habits you can develop.

The practice is straightforward: when you notice yourself spiraling, stop and ask two questions. First: what actually happened? Just the facts. Nothing more. Second: what story am I telling myself about what happened? Separating those two things — the event from the interpretation — gives you space. And in that space, you can choose a different story. A more accurate story. A story that does not end with you reaching for a drink.

Real-life example: Reggie was three months sober when his sister did not return his phone call for two days. His brain immediately went into overdrive: “She is still angry about what I did when I was drinking. She does not forgive me. She never will. Nobody in my family will ever trust me again. What is the point of staying sober if nobody cares?” By the time his sister called back — she had been on a work trip with bad cell service — Reggie had spiraled into a full-blown craving that nearly led to relapse. In therapy the following week, his counselor taught him the facts-versus-stories technique. The fact: his sister did not call back for two days. The story: she hates him, nobody cares, sobriety is pointless. “When I saw the gap between the fact and the story, I was stunned,” Reggie says. “I had built an entire catastrophe out of a missed phone call. My brain had written a script that was completely fictional, and I almost relapsed over it. Learning to separate facts from stories did not just help my sobriety. It changed every relationship in my life.”

5. Practicing Gratitude as a Daily Default

Gratitude is not just a feel-good exercise you do when things are going well. In recovery, it is a survival tool — a deliberate, daily practice that rewires your brain’s default setting from scarcity to abundance, from resentment to appreciation, from “what is wrong” to “what is right.”

The addicted brain is wired for negativity. It scans for threats. It magnifies problems. It minimizes good things. It fixates on what is missing and ignores what is present. This is not a character flaw — it is neurochemistry. And gratitude is one of the most effective ways to override it.

The thought habit is simple: every single day, identify specific things you are grateful for. Not vague, general things. Specific, tangible, real things. The friend who checked in this morning. The fact that you slept well last night. The sunshine coming through the window. The meal you are about to eat. The fact that you are sober right now, in this moment, reading these words.

When gratitude becomes your default — when your brain learns to look for the good before it looks for the bad — the entire emotional landscape of your recovery shifts. Cravings have less power because you are less miserable. Triggers have less pull because you have more to lose. Life feels less like an endurance test and more like something worth protecting.

Real-life example: For the first six months of her sobriety, Angela says she was miserable. “I was sober, but I was angry. Angry at everything. Angry that I could not drink. Angry at the people who could. Angry at my life, my past, my situation.” Her sponsor gave her what she considered a ridiculous assignment: write three things she was grateful for every morning before she got out of bed. “I fought it,” Angela admits. “The first few days, I could barely think of anything. I wrote things like ‘I am alive’ and ‘The bed is warm.'” But her sponsor told her to keep going. Day after day, Angela wrote her three things. And slowly, almost imperceptibly, something shifted. She started noticing good things she had been blind to. A coworker’s kindness. Her daughter’s laugh. The taste of morning coffee. The feeling of being clear-headed. “By month three, I was writing more than three things,” Angela says. “By month six, I had filled an entire notebook. The anger did not disappear, but it got quieter. And the gratitude got louder. It completely changed the soundtrack of my recovery.”

6. “This Is Temporary” — Building a Relationship With Impermanence

Cravings peak and then fade. Bad days end. Hard seasons pass. Painful emotions rise and then settle. Nothing — absolutely nothing — lasts forever. And yet, in the middle of a difficult moment, your brain will try to convince you that this is permanent. That you will feel this way forever. That the pain will never stop. That the craving will never let go. That this dark stretch of road goes on endlessly with no exit in sight.

This thought habit is the antidote: learning to tell yourself, with conviction and evidence, that whatever you are experiencing right now is temporary. The craving will pass. The sadness will lift. The anxiety will ease. The boredom will shift. This is not wishful thinking. It is a scientific and experiential fact. Emotions are temporary states. Cravings typically peak within 15 to 30 minutes and then begin to decline. No feeling has ever lasted forever. Not one.

When you internalize this truth — when “this is temporary” becomes a reflex instead of a theory — you develop an extraordinary ability to ride out the hard moments without self-destructing. Because you know, from experience and evidence, that if you just hold on a little longer, the wave will pass. It always does.

Real-life example: Rafael describes his cravings in early recovery as “tsunamis.” They would hit without warning — massive, overwhelming, all-consuming. He was convinced each one would be the one that broke him. His counselor taught him to time them. “She told me to look at the clock when the craving hit and just notice when it started to fade,” Rafael says. “The first time, I was shocked. It peaked at about twelve minutes and started fading by twenty. Twenty minutes. That is it. The thing that felt like it would destroy me lasted twenty minutes.” Rafael started telling himself “this is temporary” every time a craving or a difficult emotion hit. He would set a timer on his phone for 30 minutes and commit to not making any decisions until the timer went off. “Nine times out of ten, by the time the timer went off, the craving had passed and I was fine,” he says. “That timer — and those three words — taught me that I do not have to react to every feeling the moment it shows up. I just have to wait. And waiting is something I can always do.”

7. Reframing Setbacks as Data, Not Catastrophes

Recovery is not a straight line. There are good days and bad days. There are steps forward and stumbles backward. There are moments of clarity and moments of confusion. And the way you think about those setbacks — the narrative you assign to them — has an enormous impact on whether they derail you or strengthen you.

The addicted brain loves catastrophizing. One bad day becomes “I am failing at recovery.” One missed meeting becomes “I am not serious about sobriety.” One craving becomes “I will never be free from this.” Each setback is interpreted as evidence of fundamental brokenness, and the shame spiral that follows becomes its own trigger.

The sober mindset reframes setbacks as data. Not disasters. Not proof of failure. Information. A craving hit hard today — what triggered it? You skipped your routine this week — what got in the way? You isolated instead of reaching out — what were you avoiding? Each stumble tells you something valuable about your recovery if you are willing to look at it with curiosity instead of shame.

Real-life example: When Bria found herself romanticizing drinking after eight months of sobriety — scrolling through old photos of parties, remembering “the good times,” feeling a deep pull toward the life she had left behind — she was terrified. She thought it meant she was going to relapse. She thought it meant her recovery was fake. She called her sponsor in a panic. Her sponsor asked a simple question: “What is different this week compared to last week?” Bria thought about it. She had skipped two meetings. She had stopped journaling. She had been spending more time alone. Her sponsor nodded. “That is not a sign of failure. That is data. Your brain is telling you exactly what it needs: more connection, more routine, more processing. Listen to it.” Bria went to a meeting that night and got back to her journal the next morning. The romanticized memories faded within days. “My sponsor taught me to treat every wobble as a message, not a death sentence,” Bria says. “That mindset shift kept me from turning a normal fluctuation into a full-blown crisis.”

8. Choosing Curiosity Over Judgment

There is a habit of mind that most people in recovery carry from their years of addiction: relentless self-judgment. Everything becomes a referendum on your worth. A craving means you are weak. A struggle means you are failing. A mistake means you are the same broken person you have always been. The inner judge is loud, merciless, and utterly convinced that every imperfection is proof that you do not deserve the life you are trying to build.

The sober mindset replaces judgment with curiosity. Instead of “What is wrong with me?” you ask, “What is going on with me?” Instead of “Why am I so weak?” you ask, “What does this craving need me to understand?” Instead of “I should not be feeling this way,” you ask, “What is this feeling trying to tell me?”

The shift from judgment to curiosity changes everything. Judgment shuts you down. Curiosity opens you up. Judgment creates shame. Curiosity creates insight. Judgment pushes you toward relapse. Curiosity pulls you toward growth.

Real-life example: Terri had a vicious inner critic that she carried from childhood into her addiction and then into her recovery. Every thought was a verdict: you are not good enough, you are not trying hard enough, you will never be enough. Her therapist introduced her to a practice called “curious observer” — whenever the judge showed up, Terri was to imagine stepping back and looking at herself with the kind, neutral curiosity of a scientist studying something fascinating. Not judging. Not fixing. Just noticing. “I started asking myself different questions,” Terri says. “Instead of ‘Why am I having a craving? I must be doing something wrong,’ I would ask, ‘Huh, interesting — I am having a craving. I wonder what triggered it. I wonder what my brain is trying to tell me.’ That simple switch — from verdict to question — took the shame out of the equation. And once the shame was gone, I could actually deal with what was happening instead of spiraling into self-hatred.” Terri calls it the single most transformative mental shift of her recovery. “Curiosity saved me from the person who was hardest on me — myself.”

9. Building an Identity Beyond Addiction

For years, addiction was the center of your identity. It defined how you spent your time, who you spent it with, what you prioritized, and how you saw yourself. Even in recovery, it is easy to continue building your identity around addiction — just from the other side. You are no longer “the drunk.” Now you are “the recovering alcoholic.” Your entire sense of self still orbits around the substance, just with a different trajectory.

The sober mindset pushes you to build an identity that transcends addiction entirely. Not one that ignores it — your recovery is always a part of who you are — but one that is not limited by it. You are not just a person in recovery. You are a runner. A painter. A mentor. A father. A chef. A gardener. A writer. A friend. A human being with passions, curiosities, talents, and dreams that have nothing to do with what you do or do not drink.

This thought habit matters because identity shapes behavior. When you see yourself as “a person who does not drink,” your sobriety depends on a negation — a thing you are avoiding. When you see yourself as “a person who runs marathons, volunteers on weekends, cooks incredible meals, and writes poetry” — sobriety is no longer the point. It is the platform. The foundation on which everything else is built.

Real-life example: Corey spent his first two years of recovery defining himself entirely by his addiction. He introduced himself at every meeting as an alcoholic. He read recovery books. He listened to recovery podcasts. He talked about recovery constantly. It kept him sober, but it also kept him stuck. He felt one-dimensional. A friend in long-term recovery told him something that changed his perspective: “Your recovery is not your whole identity. It is the door you walked through to find your real one.” Corey started exploring. He signed up for a creative writing class. He volunteered with a literacy program. He trained for a half marathon. He adopted a dog. Slowly, his identity expanded from “Corey the recovering alcoholic” to “Corey the writer, runner, dog dad, and literacy volunteer who also happens to be in recovery.” “I am still in recovery,” Corey says. “I always will be. But that is not all I am anymore. And the fuller my identity becomes, the stronger my sobriety gets. Because now I have a life so full that there is no room for alcohol. That is a much more powerful motivator than just not drinking.”

10. Choosing to Believe You Deserve a Good Life

This is the final thought habit, and it is the one that everything else rests on. Because if you do not believe, deep in the core of yourself, that you deserve a good life — a sober life, a full life, a joyful life, a life with love and purpose and peace — then no amount of strategy or willpower will be enough to sustain your recovery.

Addiction tells you the opposite. It tells you that you are damaged. That you are unworthy. That the good life is for other people — people who did not make the mistakes you made, who did not hurt the people you hurt, who did not fall as far as you fell. It tells you that the best you can hope for is survival. That happiness is for people who deserve it, and you are not one of them.

That is the deepest lie addiction tells. And it is the one you must dismantle, brick by brick, day by day, for as long as it takes.

You deserve a good life. Not because you are perfect. Not because you have earned it through suffering. Not because you have paid enough penance. You deserve it because you are a human being who chose to fight for a second chance. You deserve it because you are still here. You deserve it because the very fact that you are reading this article, searching for ways to strengthen your recovery, proves that there is a part of you that refuses to give up — and that part of you deserves to win.

Real-life example: Destiny says the turning point in her recovery was not a celebration or a milestone. It was a Thursday afternoon in her therapist’s office when her therapist looked her in the eye and said, “Destiny, do you believe you deserve to be happy?” Destiny opened her mouth to say yes, but the word would not come. She sat there, silent, for almost a full minute. And then she started crying. “I realized I did not believe it,” she says. “Not even a little bit. I believed I deserved to survive. I believed I deserved to stop hurting people. But I did not believe I deserved to actually be happy. I thought happiness was for people who had not destroyed as much as I had.” Destiny and her therapist spent the next six months working on that single belief. Slowly, painfully, one affirmation and one piece of evidence at a time, Destiny began to internalize a new truth: she was worthy. Not despite her past. Because of the person she was becoming in spite of it. “The day I truly believed I deserved a good life was the day my recovery stopped being about survival and started being about living,” Destiny says. “And the difference between surviving and living is everything.”

How Your Thoughts Build Your Sobriety

Every thought you think is either building your sobriety or eroding it. There is no neutral ground. The thought “I can handle this” builds it. The thought “I cannot take this” erodes it. The thought “This is temporary” builds it. The thought “This will never end” erodes it. The thought “I deserve a good life” builds it. The thought “I do not deserve happiness” erodes it.

This does not mean you will never have negative thoughts. You will. Your brain will produce them as reliably as your lungs produce breath. The goal is not to eliminate negative thoughts. The goal is to notice them, name them for what they are — stories, not facts — and choose which ones to feed.

The thoughts you practice become the thoughts you default to. The thoughts you default to become the beliefs you carry. The beliefs you carry shape the actions you take. And the actions you take determine whether you stay sober or do not.

Choose your thoughts carefully. They are building the rest of your life.

20 Powerful and Uplifting Quotes About the Sober Mindset

“Your thoughts are either building your sobriety or building a case for relapse. Choose wisely.”
“A craving is a thought, not a command. You always have a choice.”
“Recovery starts in your mind long before it changes your life.”
“The most powerful thing I learned in sobriety is that I do not have to believe everything I think.”
“Progress, not perfection. That is the only standard that matters.”
“Play the tape forward. The full movie is never worth the preview.”
“This is temporary. Say it until you believe it. Then say it again.”
“Gratitude is not something you feel when things are good. It is something you practice so things get better.”
“The story you tell yourself about your life becomes your life. Choose a better story.”
“I replaced ‘I cannot take this’ with ‘I can handle this,’ and everything changed.”
“Curiosity opens doors that judgment slams shut.”
“You are not your worst thought. You are the person who chooses not to act on it.”
“Setbacks are data, not death sentences.”
“Your identity is not your addiction. It is the life you build beyond it.”
“You deserve a good life. Not someday. Today.”
“Every thought you practice becomes a belief. Make sure it is one worth believing.”
“The sober mindset does not mean your thoughts are always positive. It means you know which ones to trust.”
“Thoughts pass. Feelings pass. Cravings pass. You remain.”
“What you think about sobriety matters more than what you feel about it.”
“Recovery gave me a new brain. Not a perfect one. A conscious one.”

Picture This

Stop what you are doing. Not in a minute. Not after the next paragraph. Right now. Take a breath. A slow one. The kind that reminds your body it is safe. The kind that tells your nervous system to stand down. And step into this.

It is a weekday morning. Nothing special about it. No holiday. No milestone. No event. Just a regular, ordinary, middle-of-the-week morning — the kind that used to be invisible to you, the kind that used to blur into the next one without leaving a single mark on your memory.

But today, it does not blur. Today, you notice it.

You are standing in your kitchen. The coffee is brewing. The light is coming in through the window the way it always does at this hour — slanted and warm, catching the steam rising from the pot. You are barefoot on the cool floor. Your mind is quiet. Not empty — just quiet. The usual chaos that used to fill your mornings — the headache, the nausea, the dread, the frantic search for your phone, the piecing together of last night’s damage — is gone. In its place is something you almost do not recognize because you went so many years without it: peace.

You pour your coffee. You take a sip. And a thought drifts into your mind — not loud, not dramatic, just a quiet observation: “I feel good today.”

You pause on that thought. You let it sit. In the old days, your brain would have immediately countered with something dark: “It will not last. Something will go wrong. You do not deserve to feel good.” But that is not what happens today. Today, you have practiced a different response. Today, your brain says: “I feel good today. And I am going to notice that. I am going to be grateful for that. I am going to let myself enjoy that without waiting for the other shoe to drop.”

You sit down in your favorite spot. The house is still. Maybe there is music playing quietly, or maybe it is just the birds outside the window and the hum of the coffee maker. You think about the day ahead and it does not fill you with anxiety. It fills you with something softer — something like readiness. You have a plan. You have your routine. You have the tools you have been building: gratitude, curiosity, the ability to separate facts from stories, the reflex to play the tape forward, the deep and growing belief that this life — this sober, clear, imperfect, beautiful life — is something you deserve.

You think about the thoughts that used to run your life. The ones that told you you were weak. The ones that said the craving was stronger than you. The ones that whispered, at your lowest, that nothing would ever change and no one would ever care and you might as well give up. You remember those thoughts clearly. But they do not control you anymore. They still show up sometimes — at 2 a.m., in a stressful meeting, in a quiet moment when your guard is down. They knock on the door. But you no longer have to let them in. You can hear the knock, acknowledge it, and choose not to answer. That is the power of the sober mindset. Not the absence of dark thoughts. The freedom to choose which ones to live by.

You finish your coffee. You stand up. You take a breath. And you walk into your day — not perfectly, not fearlessly, but deliberately. Consciously. With the full understanding that every thought you think today is a brick, and you are building something extraordinary with them.

This is what the sober mindset looks like in real life. Not on a stage. Not in a motivational speech. In a kitchen. On a Wednesday. In the quiet, ordinary, unremarkable moments where the real work of recovery happens.

And it is beautiful.

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You could be that moment for someone.

Think about who needs this today. Maybe it is a friend in early recovery who is being demolished by their own inner critic and needs to learn the difference between judgment and curiosity. Maybe it is someone who is stuck in catastrophic thinking and does not know that setbacks can be data instead of disasters. Maybe it is someone who has been sober for years but has never fully believed they deserve the good life they have built. Maybe it is someone who has not yet gotten sober but whose mind is already working against them, telling them it is impossible, and they need to hear that thoughts can be rewritten.

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